Finding Romance

The wrong way and the right way to "program" to find your ideal mate

Q: Hello Ed!

Thanks for your reply, thanks for caring... I haven't been able to read my mail for over a week, but I decided to get myself out of it so I have been doing the relaxation exercises every day and also affirmations while at alpha. I do actually feel a bit better than I would otherwise I think, especially since I just was at my fathers funeral yesterday.

Here is my question: I more than anything would like to meet the right person and get married, but I haven't had a relationship for 7 years! I don't know why it never happens, it´s like I don't really believe in love anymore, having been hurt so much in the past. How can I change this, which is the best method to correct this problem?

Dear Ed, I am really committed to change my life now... I wanna do it and I will not give up this time! Right now I am doing Long or Short Relax in the morning, visualizing myself happy and content in midday (no specific technique at this time) and writing affirmations in the evening before I go to sleep.

Have you got a better suggestion for optimum results? For instance would it be more effective to do any of the more specific techniques instead of just the visualization in the midday? I am willing to do whatever it takes, I just need some guidance for what the best programming would be.

Hope you don´t think my questions are to stupid, I am feeling quite lonely right now and just need some support.

Thank you for everything and hope you have a great summer!

A: Hi, Thanks for writing and for the information. I'm not sure what to suggest to you... perhaps it would help if you would send me some specifics. It is usually easier to work with specifics than with generalities:

You mention that you are writing affirmations. Would you give me some examples of these affirmations.

Also, what are you picturing when you visualize yourself happy and content. What does happy look like? What does content look like?

Maybe this will help me to understand what you are doing and what you are seeking.

Thanks.

Q #2: Hi Ed!

The strongest wish I have right now is to meet someone for a romantic relationship! I haven't had a boyfriend for a long time, just a bit of flirting and a few one night stands. Now I really want to meet the right person! What is the best method?

Blessings

A: Hi,

Well, you didn't answer my questions, so I don't have too much to work with, but I'll do what I can to provide you with the information you requested.

You can go to your center - the Alpha level - and program for anything you want. If you want a certain type of boyfriend, a certain type of husband, you can program for that. Many people have done so, and have gotten what they programmed for.

To do this, enter the alpha level and visualize what you want, visualize the circumstances you want in your life. You can use the 3-Scenes Technique for this.

You mentioned affirmations, which makes me very nervous. Affirmations are not programming. Sometimes, when affirmations are done correctly, they might help to prepare the way for programming, to make you more receptive to programming. We don't recommend them, and Mr. Silva didn't use them.

Most people create affirmations while at the beta level, and they have wonderful left-brain logic. This usually makes them totally wrong for right brain programming at the alpha level, and they usually impede your progress.

For instance, we have seen many people affirm something like this for themselves: “I am a loving and lovable person, and I deserve love and happiness.”

Sounds great, doesn't it? Now let me ask you: Why would a person affirm something like that?

Only one reason: Because they don't believe it, because they don't think that they are loving and lovable, because they don't think that they deserve love and happiness.

If they thought that those things were true, they wouldn't feel any need to “affirm” it! They hope that by “affirming” it, they will make it come true.

But the reality is, they are going to level - to the powerful Alpha level - and dwelling on the problem, calling attention to the problem, reminding themselves that they don't feel loving and lovable and deserving of love and happiness.

So the first thing I'd do is avoid “affirmations.” If you want to program, then program. Many people have, and have gotten what they programmed for. I did that. But it can often be a problem, because we don't always know what best.

I programmed to attract a young woman who didn't have hangups about sex, but who would enjoy it. Meanwhile a young woman named Darla was programming to meet an older man who was spiritual and not too interested in sex. We found each other. And very quickly I discovered that my sexual appetite was not nearly as big as I thought it was back when I was all alone. And Darla, who was a virgin, discovered that sex was very pleasant, and that she wasn't nearly as interested in an almost-celibate spiritual life as she'd thought.

We parted company after a couple of years (on friendly terms) and went our separate ways.

Jose Silva never recommended programming in that manner. In fact, he had a completely different approach. He took a much more holistic approach to life, and did not take individual activities as single, independent events. He felt that our purpose in life was so important that everything we do should take that purpose into consideration.

He was very clear on that point, and we have recordings of him emphasizing that we were sent here to correct problems and to improve conditions on planet earth, and that’s what we should be doing with our time. Higher intelligence sent us here, and higher intelligence will guide us and help us to fulfill our mission.

That doesn't necessarily mean we have to sacrifice everything we want, far from it. Neither should we sacrifice our purpose in life just so we can chase the things that we think will make us happy.

Would you like to hear Mr. Silva’s favorite formula? Here it is:

Seek ye first the kingdom of heaven (which we think is the alpha level),

Function within God’s righteousness (do what you were sent here to do, which is to correct problems and improve conditions on the planet),

And (as a result, after you do those two things) all else shall be added unto you.

Here is something else that he told us, about how he programs when he needs money. He told us:

“I program to provide more service - to come up with a new product, or find a way to help more people with what we already have - and while doing that, I keep in mind what my needs are... plus a little bit more.”

If you think about it, someone who is needy and desperate to find someone to love them isn't necessarily the most attractive and desirable person... especially to someone who is confident and loving and giving. A good first step is often to find what higher intelligence wants you to do and go and do it. This builds confidence, a sense of purpose, a sense of self-worth, and many other highly desirable traits that will appeal to the kind of people who make good mates.

Contine: Become what you want